Kristy,
Its ummm like you are talking or holding up a mirror to me. I just had a therapy session with or about trying to figure out , my gosh , times when I can't accept
my husband because of what in my mind his face looks like and how i read it. two issues were , extremes and wise men avoid them, in other words i look at him read something i think in my mind is totally valid and then run with it in hypercriticism that really cuts at me as i use it. We are trying to find a way by stopping to look at the puzzle , in other words the recycling problem and find new ways to handle it. I think by looking at the storm, maybe i see hope of what is good and how to hold onto it and of course myself. Not everything that I need does he give me. Alot of times I would like him to be a fluent on english in other words meet me with words, because when I keep giving them and giving them i start to feel like an exhausted dish rag in his eyes like what i say is not valuable because he won't meet me with words, so some of what or who he is or isn't is not enough for me. But I wonder if there is not a way to still save the love and however it is there, because we have had wonderful connections and experiences on the other hand he has saved my ass, excuse me , in other times and ways. I just think if something can be kept and valued it just might be worth our efforts to change how we deal with it. I dunno like u. Oh, thankyou others on this forum for giving me positive input when my extreme thinking really was hijacking me into misery.... and i was so sure of my hubby being needed to be excluded totally from my life. Good work good advice. rjmhaley thanks again , we are good ,,, kzoey,,,, i feel my mom is in the stance your wife takes,, ok and whats' good is that you and i can understand and feel for the sensitivities of care of this particular thing. It creates a lonely gulf, when a significant person to us cannot meet us and instead we feel conflicted when we open up. And my mom would never admit to getting me wrong, but you know what ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,she does, and our closeness is missing there. Okay said enough, over and out .... Remember CB's in our vehicles..
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